In January, we slow down and take a thoughtful look at both our lives and our goals: What’s working for me? This is one of the ways we put the power of the gospel on display, for sure. Bev, your words are wise. I pray that I will love them in my heart and also in my words….that I won’t get caught up in saying snarky things behind people’s backs. or. “You can not hate someone you first did not love. Thus people can say: "I hate you, Then I love you . I’ve had only small experiences loving so-called enemies and wow! Marie, just prayed you’d be given the strength to keep showing kindness. I like the idea of a “word” for the year! My husband and I are right in the midst of trying to love our daughter-in-law who we feel “hates us”! Dawn, would you mind expounding a bit on this sentence? I kept thinking about the verse to live at peace with all men insofar as it depends on me—and when I’d want to quit loving this person (just everyday, you know! To love them. By fighting against those who hate you, the only thing you that will manage to achieve is to add fuel to the fire, being under the false impression that by acting this way you will calm it. And thanks, Kim, that I wasn’t alone, in not getting it! Love He is dead now, some thirty years later and the many children are grown and even now living the horrors of PTSD, and struggling as they raise their own families. 3. I was advised to show nothing but kindness to someone in my life who wasn’t my enemy, but was very frustrated with me. Showing love & kindness is hard in this situation. i met her six months back. Neither works by itself. It definitely doesn’t happen without God. Listen up, people, we need to earn more haters. Perhaps I need to use the word “love”! To be the recipient of hate and bitterness is such an awful feeling. So many of us are doing our best to use self control, a fruit of the spirit, and be angry and sin not. Thank you Dawn for your wise wisdom. Nobody is perfect, and everyone deserves to live a better, more beautiful and loving life. I just read an email from someone who “hates” me. In 2018, I hope to serve and love those around me. Dawn, Also, following the the commands in Matthew and the parallel section in Luke, plus Romans 12 help me have the Lord’s perspective and heart. Thank you so very much! 4. 2,515 people like this. Hated. I pray for this journey of healing and that God’s supernatural love would be your source!! Living with someone who hates you may not be common, but it does happen, and getting out of the situation can be impossible. People who hate had a rough past. Thank you for sharing, and may I wish you a very Happy New Year! It is not self-seeking; it is not easily-angered, it does not keep a record of wrongs. When she loved me so much she used to tell me im her life and she cannot live without me. This is a hard one because we wrestle not against flesh and blood so we don’t always discern that sometimes the one appearing as an angel of light, and pretends to be your trustworthy friend, could possibly be a wolf in sheep’s clothing who actually hates our guts. Deeb, I don’t think I can tag both you and Kim, who commented below, in this, so I may post this twice. Yes, when we think on how Christ loves us in our unlovable state, we realize we don’t get a pass to hate others. Understand that fighting won’t solve any problems. March 19, 2017 at 7:56 AM. tell me ways she can like me again please thankyou. Two years ago, our son married a woman (we feel out of desperation) and they moved 500 miles away. I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo HAtEs Me. And as a Christ follower, I cannot afford to block and wreck His life in me. Christ died for us.” We don't get to pick our favorite way to love our God. The only way to truly resolve any kind of relationship issues is through love. To love someone who hates you is a truly divine kind of love, the kind that allows you to push past the hurt and see people for themselves, beyond whatever misunderstandings or wrongs have piled up between you. I have been reminding myself of the verses that call us to seek peace, to forgive, and to love. .  (Matthew 5:44). Love always protects; it always trusts, it always hopes, it always perseveres. // @dawnMHSH at @incourage: Dawn Camp is an Atlanta-based writer, photographer, and essential oil slinger currently juggling two life stages: mom to three teens and five adult children, mimi to five adorable grands. This is a different but connected topic to loving those who hate us or are consistently unkind, even within the body of Christ. I have experienced this in my life, it not only changes them, but also it changed my own heart! Dawn, Have I done something to offend? Bev xx. There’s no whining or putting the blame on someone else, no “I’m a decent person so why do people hate me?” And he didn’t ask for help simply to keep himself from hating people who hate him in return, because let’s face it, that’s easy to do. However she is open to giving it time and we pray that God will help heal her wounds and any hostility she feels towards us. “We were both volunteering at a haunted house and I thought he was someone I knew… hit him (lightly) on the arm from behind… he turned around and punched my arm so hard I had a massive bruise for quite a long time. Marie, this morning in my Bible study I came across this verse: “The Lord shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.” – Exodus 14:14. She has rejected it all and will say such harsh things but we’ve taken those words with grace and not retaliated. He already hates you, so giving him more of you isn't doing you any favors, right? A much needed piece every day. The Bible warns us that openly declaring ourselves as Christian guarantees the hatred of some: And ye shall be hated of all men for my name’s sake . I’m sorry to say that even believers let hate enter the picture when it comes to differing beliefs, healing, spiritual gifts, the Rapture. “Love does not envy; it does not boast; it is not proud; it does not dishonor others. A strong word, isn’t it, Dawn, and good for the transparency of that pastor. Sometimes if someone hates you, there has been a misunderstanding. Then he told us we needed to speak to our daughter-in-law. Fighting never solved any problems and it never will–in fact, fighting, competition, and the war mentality that is prevalent in the modern world is what has created the majority of problems that we currently experience in the first place, both on an individual and collective level. Besides what is mentioned, I know that forgivness from the heart is SO necessary, and again and again as new hurts occur. God bless and GOD’s LOVE to you! Perhaps they will see our loving kindness & come to Christ. 40 Comments I know it’s hard to forget that someone who’s supposed to make you feel safe is the one who hurts you the most. One final prayer and then the singing school our family attends each summer would come to an end. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” A Practical Guide to Loving Those Who Hate You. But people love to talk about themselves. I have tried new crushes and now I have a new boyfriend but I am still in love with someone else. Understanding this truth will allow you to accept them as they are and trust in their positive side. What a God moment this is. Terrie, Love is a great word! Thank you for this! When you understand that those who hate you are in fact very sensitive individuals who have passed through emotional fire and have been psychologically burned, the only thing you would like to see is that they relieve themselves of the burden that has accumulated in their psyche, wishing that they find peace with themselves and those around them, and trying to help them whenever possible. Loving those who hate us is very hard and we can’t do it without God. Make the wrong comment or express the wrong opinion on Facebook if you have any doubt that “haters gonna hate.”. Living With Someone Who Hates You. In reality, you will only make things worse, not only for yourself, but for those who show hatred toward you, thus helping perpetuate a cycle of hatred, which could easily be extended to other people as well. I think this is a good word for you in this situation: let the Lord fight for you and defend you, and continue to hold your peace and act in love. Blessings, After all, that’s what Jesus did. She’s the type of person that always wears a smile, but she will cut you to shreds while she’s smiling. Thank you so very much! i love someone but he hates me what do i do? Put yourself in their shoes. Yet, this is where me and my family find ourselves. . Our daughter-in-law isn’t a warm and loving woman but claims to be a Christian (my son is also a Christian). 0 0 0. Praying for God to strengthen you. 'GMA' host uses sexy pic for climate change pitch. Of course, this is easier said than done, because in order to be able to love those who hate you, you must first cultivate love within yourself. But, trust me, the hardest part is leaving when you want to stay. About See All. See more of I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo hAtEs Me on Facebook. ” Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are.” Last July she told us to our faces that she thinks we are “toxic”, she wants nothing to do with us and we are not to greet her, speak to her, send a gift or text, etc. First of all, my word is Love this year. Those who hate you are humans, with their flaws and imperfections. Il y a 1 décennie . A much needed piece every day. by Dawn Camp We are not defined by our demographics or our choices in one area. The more I know about her, the more my heart goes out to her. After all, I’d never heard the phrase “hate my guts” used in prayer, much less in one at such a large, public assembly. she was in a relationship at that point of time. At times, no matter how well you treat some people, you’ll still find out that they are behaving with a hateful attitude toward you. she would tell me that she loves the guy but and he is a very nice person. Instead, they react to people with hatred because they think that that’s the best way to protect themselves from them, after having gone through many painful, traumatic experiences during the course of their lives, which have left them in a constant psychological state of insecurity. 4 COMMENTS. Anne and I were divorced after five years of marriage, when she admitted to having an affair. I was sure I had signed a contract with salvation and that my wife was going to be my savior. Your prayers are appreciated more than you know. I am careful to word things in a way that us the truth but I’ve learned people are at different levels of faith. . I pray you and your husband would have comfort and God’s eyes to see the situation for what it really is – a hurting woman spreading her hurt in the twisted hope of finding healing and love through pushing the hurt away and on to others. That said, being nice to someone who is making your life miserable can help break down barriers between the two of you and possibly make the situation better. Someone who believes … It’s a terrible feeling, especially when I feel it’s been uncalled for. This was very timely for me and has encouraged me to set aside my hurt and focus on being a blessing. See more of I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo hAtEs Me on Facebook. . And because he hated Jesus first he will do what he can to destroy us. Not merely to tolerate them or even to be capable of ignoring them— and that would be quite a thing because it hurts when you know someone hates you. 2,506 people follow this. What these findings suggest to me is that this love/hate dynamic is a normal part of close relationships. Thanks again for your wonderful prayer! Ouvrez une session pour répondre aux questions Publier; Fergy. Love is a powerful word – it carries much weight. I pray that God will soften her heart. Forgot account? The kind of love that it takes to love those that hate us like this must indeed be sent from God for in our flesh there lives no such ability without Him who loved us and gave His life for us. “Whenever you are confronted with an opponent, conquer him with love.” ~Mahatma Gandhi, about     newsletter     contact    disclaimer     DMCA / removal notice   privacy policy. You will realize that they were neither born hateful nor that they find joy in spreading hatred. How can I love even if it hurts so horribly. Only a woman who is trying to love the way Jesus loved would expend energy and emotion in the direction of her enemies. This site uses cookies to improve your user experience. I am a 17 yr old girl. We spoke to our son who was gracious and kind and wants healing as well. I hope someone who feels moved by the Holy Spirit, will further this discussion about Love, forgiveness and healthy boundaries when necessary. We’re believing we can all find healing! The enemy hates our guts but he hated Christ first. Not Now. Not Now. Thank you so much and God bless! Without the prayer support of my husband and a few close friends, there’s no way I could’ve continued. And yet Jesus calls us to love our enemies: But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you . Thank you, Dawn, for the much needed admonition to love in the face of someone who hates me…If I do not, I become hateful myself; ugly, angry, bitter, etc. Who hate my guts? Hugs! Dems hint at retaliation over Barrett nomination July 21, 2018 at 6:49 AM. With God all things are possible! Hatred, as we all recognize, can be harmful both to ourselves and others. Feeling negatively towards your partner does not mean that you are doing something wrong or that you are in the wrong relationship. he is having some problem which he is not telling to her. Love never fails.”. Visitor Posts. I don’t think I understand it, but for some reason, it stuck out to me as something important. So thankful that “God demonstrated His own love for us in that while we were yet sinners (!!!!) A wooden, intellectually-centered faith is just as dangerous as an emotion-centered faith. See photo . I appreciate Pearl, you also briefly mentioning healthy boundaries for this is vitally important in certain situations as well. We were told to "love our God with all our heart, mind, soul and strength." Jesus minister sinners and religious alike, and was mistreated by both, so we are in good company. I try so hard to be positive & sweet to this relative but they turn it back on me by being very judgemental. I close that email and then I read yours. 🙂. Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are. If they contact me, that probably means they don’t hate me.” — Sascha W. 2. A whole community hit upon yet just one of the many around the world who have experienced the same. Solving the hatred isn't necessarily enough -- not if you want to ever be friends with someone. Posted Nov 08, 2020 . Are there people who hate me? I love this guy but the guy I'm in love with hates me and can't stand me. I have loved this person for over 40 years & they are so consistently hurtful with their words. He asked the Lord to help him love those who hate him. For 2018 I’m working on being more positive in my life. Do I need to ask forgiveness and make amends, and if I have experienced prejudice, it is a powerful experience that helps me to seek forgiveness for my own prejudice, to be called up short, and to know how horrible that feels. ©2020 DaySpring Cards Inc. All Rights Reserved. This is my 8th year to choose a Word, and it truly influences the course of my year! What I meant was, some people may hate us by what we represent: because we’re Christians, or because of the school choice we make for our children, or because of how we vote (or don’t vote), or because of the color of our skin (this happens no matter what the color) without actually getting to know us and who we are as individuals. (Completely different topics.) I’m asking for prayer from all my incourage family. But most of us don’t know how to deal with hatred, especially when it is directed toward us. In our community it was a lay person in the church who randomly raped children each Sunday and set such fear in their hearts so as to not disclose anything. That conversation will happen tonight! They are not Christians. To love someone who hates you is a truly divine kind of love, the kind that allows you to push past the hurt and see people for themselves, beyond whatever misunderstandings or wrongs have piled up between you. LOL. Pertinence. Thank you for the reminder to love and pray for those who hate us! Engage in relationships with his best friend. July 19, 2017 at 12:17 AM. But the amazing thing is that even though the other person didn’t change, the relationship became semi-functional. Thanks much for the clarification, Dawn! See photo. He holds each one. We felt last week that we need to reach out once more and ask our son and daughter-in-law for THEIR forgiveness for whatever we have said or done to hurt them. Oh yes, truly loving can be challenging. Very interesting column – especially for the comments which followed. For the first week of knowing me he thought I was a 12 year old boy…I was 16, had short hair, and was over a foot shorter than him. This video is unavailable. Some relationships can be soul-destroying. 5. Thank you, Michele. I want to be genuine in all I say and do–not just put on a facade of good character. Thank you for your words. Nothing will stand between our prayers for each other and God's ears. Thank you for this ‘love’ly sharing Dawn – always the love flowing from my heart to those who love me and those who may not – the Lord has laid the word BRAVE upon my heart for 2018 – this year is shaping up to be one of great transformation – I trust that He will bless me with the courage and strength that I need to BRAVE it out. Love rejoices with the truth. Dear Sister Who Now Hates Me I love my sister but she feels I've stolen her life. I don’t think I understand it, but for some reason, it stuck out to me as something important. I do self harm, but i do not suggest you do so. When someone hates you it is tempting to bite back. How do you live with someone who hates you? I can continue to pray for them; I can show them through actions of kindness that I care about them – not that I’m happy with the situation, but that in spite of it, I love them. She enjoys weekly movie date nights with her husband of 30-something years and a steaming cup of Earl Grey. I also love that you are experiencing the magic. ” Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are.” When he thinks about the humiliation she brings upon him, he hates her guts. I must be kind. Aug 15, 2019 - Are you thinking, “I love someone who hates me?” You’ve come to the right place because we can show you how to turn things around and make your ex fall for you. I wanted her to love me unconditionally, to save me from myself with her adoration. but she was not happy with the way her realtion was going. A good stab of jealousy can make most people re-evaluate the status of their relationships with other people. Some of us even select a Word of the year, a theme that the Lord has laid upon our heart. It was traumatizing to say the least and our only daughter died that same year. Praying for all to work hard at loving others. Often you might think that they do so because you did something wrong, and you might try to justify their behavior, feeling that you deserve that kind of behavior. She has to be such an unhappy person. It makes me want to play this for family members and friends. EMAIL. There is not much in a situation like this that I can do, but I can be kind. What hurts me is the though of one of my brothers or sisters in Christ hating me. Marymargaret, I had an experience like this years ago. Thank you for this! Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are. Log In. My word is “Genuine”. “Lord help me to love those who hate me, who hate my guts.”. Facebook is showing information to help you better understand the purpose of a Page. I have found when I experience these feelings leveled at me, they pull me up short and cause me to examine my own behavior. TWEET. Here you will find a helpful, practical guide on how to deal with those who hate you, not by being hateful back to them, but by developing a loving attitude towards them, because, as Martin Luther King, Jr recognized: “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. This is something we know but that is easy for someone like me to forget. Great post and a much needed confirmation. i LOVE this girl at school long story short, she got me charged by the police and now she hates me i want to at least be frinds with her i LOVE her please dont say plenty more fish in the sea cause i dont care shes my first love and hopefully my last i want to spend the rest of my life with her. Cindy, I pray in Jesus name for healing within your family. Lynn, Thank you, Lynn! I’ve had huge synchronicity in my life the last few weeks, including The Life Coach School. Someone who will make every effort to point out my flaws and mistakes. I mean ACTUALLY dislikes me. Instead, set a goal of understanding why this person hates you and work toward being the better person. If a child or young adult, for instance has a sibling, parent, or other family member who seems to hate them, simply leaving is unlikely to be a viable option. That just goes beyond my comprehension. Lv 5. Our son hasn’t intervened so we’ve only had casual contact with our son since then. Keeping to Yourself “Keeping to myself or being quiet. I have tried so many things to get over him but nothing ever works. I will be here for you if you need help. “Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?” ~Abraham Lincoln. It changed everything. Blessings, Dawn, as you live your way into the beauty of “Serve” in 2018. But I was startled by the minister’s words. If our apology is not accepted, all we can do is move forward and continue to show kindness whenever we can. ), I’d realize I COULD do more. I love, love, love that you tackled this subject! Thank you so much for your prayers, Agnes. 280 Shares. Like you, I don’t like to think that I am hated….how could that be? Find shared interests. As I tell my kids, “You don’t have to tear one person down in order to build another up.” Thank you, friend! Thank you for your prayers, Dawn, as well as the reminder of this verse in Exodus. I struggle with wanting to avoid the hurt and the hurtful person altogether. Thank you for stirring these thoughts, Dawn! Hugs and Blessings. Our precious little granddaughter who is now 6 is starting to wonder what’s going on. dragonwithpurplepants. Probably one of THE hardest things to do to someone who’s hurt us. Most of my things on here will be very depressing and sad. God tells us to love those who hate us. Now we have anxiety that she will hurl insults and hate towards us again. … and that’s where I am right now. Our word for the year (actually two) is Compassion and Forgiveness. Love does not rejoice in evil. 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